woah!!!!! APRIL?

Wow.... so I haven't written here since April!  That seems unreal.....though I think I actually remember telling myself that I wasn't going to blog anymore.  I do have a small blog that on occasion I update (adoption blog!) but I rarely even touch that!  I read through some of y'alls blogs this morning, and man everyone looks great!  The babies are all so big now!  I'll give you a quick recap on my life:

I'm a SAHM, plus I work two twelve hour night shifts a week as an RN at an amazing hospital!  Sometimes I get to sleep, sometimes I count on my delusions to get me through the day! :-)  I have three beautiful boys; Logan 9, Riley (almost 5), Hunter 1.  We are in the process of adopting a beautiful girl, Haylie (almost 3), from China.  We hope to travel in either November or December to finalize the adoption and bring her home.  We can't wait to introduce her to a family life where she will be surrounded by so many people who love her already!

So you may be wondering why I've returned to this page.  Well, three weeks ago I challenged myself to living a new lifestyle.  Eating right, exercising (yikes!), and keeping a more positive opinion about myself.  How am I doing?  Actually I have impressed myself!  I haven't had a Dr Pepper in three weeks - people, this.is.huge.  No cappuccino, and rarely anything unhealthy has entered my body.  Anyone heard of Herbalife?  I used this product almost three years ago and lost 30lbs in three months.  I'm hoping to have such success this go around too!  

I have taken some before pictures and measurements, plus that before weigh-in, and my before time for my first mile.  Do you get to see any of that stuff now?  Hahaha! Nope, not quite yet.  I will say that in one week I managed to knock 2 1/2 minutes off of my mile and lost about 5 1/2lbs!  My second and third week have not been as exciting, which is discouraging!  

I'm "re-activating" this blog in order to have a place to track my weight loss journey.  I need this place to write down my frustrations as well as successes!  Where I'll confess to slips (like how I bought a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup in the Wal-mart check out and ate them both myself!) and my successes (like when I ran an entire mile without stopping!).  Today I start my C25K training.  I'm hoping to do a Rugged Maniac (5K obstacle course) with my brother in the end of October.  

I.CAN.DO.THIS.

Feel free to follow my journey, post as many words of encouragement as you'd like, and share your journeys!!!!!  We've got a lot of life ahead of us, and I refuse to live mine hating the way I look!

anyone here anymore?

hello blogger friends! I know that it's been far too long since I have posted here, just so you know, I do continue to read your posts!

I mentioned a month or so ago that my family is in the process of adopting a little girl from China.  We are moving along with this process and are actually matched with a sweet little girl!  She is 2 1/2 years old and absolutely beautiful! We absolutely cannot WAIT to get her home!  To help us get her home we are doing a fundraiser.  One of my favorite blogger friends, Shannon, is assisting us with this.  We are having a Scentsy fundraiser!!!!!  A portion of the dollar amount sold will be going towards our adoption.  I am very excited about this and have had good results so far!  If you are interested in browsing &/or making a purchase please check out this website http://shannonmc.scentsy.us and then click on my party, Kristen Dilka.  I thank you in advance!  Also, if you have any creative ideas for ways that we could continue to raise money, please share!

THANK YOU FRIENDS! :-)

update and move!

Hi friends, long time no chat!  So the holidays were wonderful to my family, and as I've caught up on many of your blogs I see they were wonderful to you as well! I don't write much anymore, life is busy keeping up with kiddos and husband and dogs and job. Plus I attempt to "un-plug" more now than I have in the past.  We have lots of changes happening in our life, exciting changes!  If you'd like to follow along then please hop on over to my new blog: http://our-journey-to-six.blogspot.com/

happy halloween

failing?

As a friend reminded me tonight, this too shall pass.... I sure wish it would pass sooner rather than later.  Let's just say that if either of my first two babies would have been like this new baby, wow, well this new baby wouldn't be here.  He is tough.  Just tonight I endured 4 hours of screaming before he would finally fall asleep.  -yes, I had burped, fed, changed, etc-  Hunter is by far my most difficult baby. First of all he requires being held pretty much 24/7.  This week I have managed to get him to take about a 2 hour nap in his bouncy seat or swing, score!  Tonight though, wow, I have never felt more defeated as a mother.  Hunter finally fell asleep, aka passed out from complete exhaustion.  Me? Well I of course immediately looked for someone to share a beer with after that disaster of an evening.  Where did it get me? Sitting on my back deck, alone, just me, my Bud Light and Pandora.  Heads up to my friends, when I text you saying I need a beer, that is cue for you to come to my rescue.  Whether you're in bed or not, that is my way of reaching out for someone to help pull me back up from my self pity!  Remember all those times in the last year that you called me at 3am to come get you from a bar cause you're too drunk to drive or because you just wanted someone to talk to.... yeah, this is payback!  Was definitely feeling let down tonight by friends.  To those that allowed me to cry via text and didn't judge me, thank you tons... you have no idea how much I just needed someone to understand/listen to my feelings of "falling apart".  To all of my fellow bloggers with new babies, I hope that if you're struggling with emotions and emotional baby's that you have someone to reach out to!  Tomorrow is another day, and hopefully it will be much easier with far less tears (both his and mine!).

surviving

All I can say is that bringing baby #3 into this family was much more difficult than #1 or #2 was!  You know how everyone tells you to "sleep when the baby sleeps"?  That is absolutely impossible.  I am beyond exhausted.  I feel like I'm adapting and my body is learning how to adjust to the little amounts of sleep that I get, but then I'll get a day (like today) that I feel like I can not possibly survive without some more sleep!

Hunter is 5 weeks old today, while he is adorable he is also a very time consuming baby.  My other babies would eat and then go to sleep, wake up to eat and go right back to sleep.  This made time for me very possible, I could shower, cook, EAT, go to the bathroom!  This little guy? yeah not so much.  He eats every 3 hours, on the dot.  After he eats (which takes 30 minutes) he will stay away for another 2 hours or so, screams until he finally falls asleep (which only lasts 30 minutes) and then wakes back up for his next feeding.  Thankfully he doesn't do this at night.  I put him down around 11pm and he'll sleep until about 7 or 8am, waking up every 3 hrs to eat of course!  It's exhausting.  On a positive, the last 2 mornings he's actually smiled at me, real "I know who you are" smiles.... makes it all worth it!

Logan (8) and Riley (3) have hit a turning point in their relationship, it's a little bit of a love/hate thing going on.  One minute they're friends, the next enemies.  It's more Logan, he's finally growing old enough to where he finds his 3yr old sibling annoying.  Makes this mama sad! :(  So those few times that Hunter will actually take a nap, I'm left spending that time breaking up fights between the older boys.

Yesterday we had a good day though, I was able to take all the kids and got the bigger boys hair cut.  They looked so handsome I decided I should break out my fancy camera and take some pictures with it.... it's amazing how much dust has gathered on that camera bag since I've become so fond of my iPhone! LOL  Here are some of my favorites from our mock photo shoot!

how I'm feeling

How I'm feeling?  


Well I feel a million things on some days!  First of all I feel so blessed to have three healthy children.  When I catch myself feeling sorry for myself or yearning for things to have been different, I end up feeling very angry at myself!  How could someone so blessed feel sadness or envy?  Let's be honest.  I waited 9 1/2 months to find out what gender this baby was going to be.  9 1/2 months people!  There was a part of me that had convinced myself that because of my patience and my overall desire for a daughter that I would surely be given this gift.  The other part of me tried to remain realistic and knew that I was having another boy.  However on the day of delivery I just knew, without a doubt, that I was going to meet my daughter.  So when the doctors so excitedly told my husband and I that "it was a BOY!" I immediately felt crushed.  Don't worry, I'm not that bad of a mother.  The crushed feeling left pretty quickly and then the "normal" feelings took over; is the baby breathing okay? are there 10 fingers and toes? is everything OK?


Once we were back in recovery my family and friends were able to pass Hunter around and take pictures.  Everyone, including the nurses, kept asking me if I was ready to hold him.  I continued to say "no it's okay, you guys keep holding!".  At the time I was feeling like that partly because of my insistent shaking from the anesthesia, and the fact that I was still lying flat on my back... seriously? how do you want me to hold my newborn when I'm not allowed to sit up and my arms won't quit shaking?  After family had left it was just my husband and I and my dear friend Abbie.  Abbie brought little Hunter to me to hold, and of course he cried intensely.  I handed him back to her, and the crying stopped.  I was hit with this feeling that Hunter knew how much I had wanted a daughter, maybe he didn't love me!  Silly I know but I was overwhelmed with this guilt.


Through the rest of the night I continued to feel this lack of connection to Hunter.  I don't know if it was because I didn't have a vaginal delivery?  I do feel like there is a complete difference between having a vaginal delivery and a c-section.  I had been worried about this from the day we decided to have a c-section.  I knew that my husband and I were going to miss out on this bonding experience, I knew that I would feel like I didn't actually "give birth" to our child.  Of course I had already decided not to breast feed, so then I felt guilty, thoughts that I was taking away the only bonding experience that Hunter and I would ever have.  Silly, yes.... but with those hormones and emotions rolling, that's how I thought!  


Thankfully after the first night my husband helped me hold Hunter and I was able to feed him his bottles.  My mom came and helped me un-swaddle him on the bed so that I could inspect him.  All I needed was some extra cuddle time, some time to make me connect with this baby that I had carried for so long.... now the connection that I feel with Hunter is no less than the connection I had with both of my older boys.  Thank the Lord that I got past those feelings!  


So while we're being honest, yes, I'm still envious of all of my friends who recently had daughters.  And when I saw "all", I seriously am surrounded by friends who had daughters, there are like 5 of them!  I see pictures of their princesses in bows and tutus and all of that girlie stuff that I was so excited to splurge on.  I don't regret having my tubes tied, but I still feel slight sadness knowing that my chances for a daughter are over.  I will never birth my own daughter.  However, I am so enormously blessed that I have carried three beautiful boys to term, they are all healthy and thriving.  I'm living a dream that so many deserving people aren't able to.  So for that I am thankful.  I count my blessings every day and thank the Lord for all that I've been giving.  


So, how am I feeling?  Blessed.  I have a perfect trifecta.  And I will always be my husband's one and only princess, can't really go wrong with that right?  :-)